Love – Whats it all about

So in order to keep track of my series about love and relationships heres a page with all the articles on (when there finished) for you to peruse through.

Part 1: Omnia Vincit Amor – Love conquers all

Little bit of latin there for you, but as i have been the subject of heartbreak
recently i thought i would do the whole “whats it all mean” thing, and discover
what is this thing we call love. Because in a sense it isnt a tangible object
that we can hold and protect from danger, but we once we get our first glimpse of
it, we subject ourselves to more and more heartbreak. In this first article about
“love” i would just like to investigte the cultural aspects about it. It appears
in media all the time, they make movies about the thing ranging from brokeback
mountain, (which i wont comment on becuase theres been too much hype as it is),
to teen flicks and rom com’s. Also im reminded myself of high fidelity (the book
is way better than the film) so im going to take alot of influence from the book
as i feel that it expresses alot of what i have on my mind,A note every woman
should read this book to understand the male perspective, yes the nice guys like
me do have feelings. Although in reference to the IT Crowd ep3, “women only go
for bastards”… well do they, is this true… discuss.

“What came first, the music or the misery? Did i listen to music because i was
miserable?Or was i miserable because i listen to music?…Nobody worries about
kids listening to thousands – literally thousands – of songs about broken hearts
and rejection and pain and misery and loss”
So do you ever get the days where you just listen to music to comfort and console
yourself after a breakup or arguement or for any reason your feeling down? Or
maybe we get this miserable because we listen to music. I know after my recent
breakup i couldnt stop listening to damien rice, easyworld, elvis costello and
other random bands as such. On face value these bands may seem harmless, but
under their fuzzy exterior, embedded deep within each album theres a song, a
lyric that conjures up a memory of someone you wanted to forget about and the
cycle starts again. Hell ive even started copying songs on my guitar/computer
with the intention of covering a song about heartbreak and misery and the like in
order to send to the girl in question, to make her feel bad, or to tell her i
still love her, but i know ill never do it, i couldnt do such a thing. It seems
too petty to try and guilt someone, you just got to work through emotions.

Emotions are a difficult thing and i will dedicate a whole other article about
the subject. So just to give you a taster of what to come (oh god no they cry,
not more bitching about heartbreak)… to be honest you can take any of what i
say with a pinch of salt, im only young and havent come to understand the deep
complexities of relationships, but im hoping to discover through these little
investigations what its all about. Anyway these articles will focus on (hopefully)

personal view
things need to know about men/women
love and the brain
scientific aspects
emotions

So we continue with the cultural aspect. Im not up to speed on cultural aspects,
so i can only plunge head first into the murky pool of media representations. So
as i said, yes high fidelity, umm what else… ah yes tv, the wonder of tv, as
someone said if it wasnt for Edison, we’d have to watch our tv’s by candlelight.
Theres only one show that i can think of that can help me better describe
relationships, and that “Coupling”. For a start i know every episode like the
back of my hand, and it pokes fun at relationships and the male and female views.
So be prepared for lots of random quotes. I would go in depth into the role of
magazines and newspapers, but im not a big reader, and you must be idiots to read
Cosmo and take it seriously…wow twety ways i can get a man… how ot ditch your
man…how to lsoe weight…makeup amongst other crap. For a start only showing
beautiful women on the cover, who threw up their lunch that day in order to lose
2 pounds, is not the average woman. One of the things that grinds my gears is how
media institutions such as tv and magazines churn out crap about how to get a
man/woman and stay blissfully in love.

(quote from coupling)series 3 ep 1
Susan: “men, and i dont mean to generalise are crap,there the human races only
failed gender… Do they realise if it werent for the genetic imperitive to
repopulate the earth, they wouldnt get a date… do you know whats even more crap
than men we (women) are more crap than men…. these magazines, 100 pages on men
are useless bastards and an article on why you should wake him up with a
blowjob.” – Make of that what you will

So ill continue this investigation tomorrow or if not later in the week, quoting
yet more coupling and high fidelity. And once that is done, onto my personal
situation, and views (esp long distance relationships). Then the science of it
all and then emotions. So please any comments on your own situations, own views
on men and women would be appreciated. And one more thing, if youve got this far,
sorry for boring you with my mindless babble.

Omnia Vincit Amor part 2: Girls must know (4/03/06)

So i found this on someone’s myspace bulletin, and thought that it relates to my ongoing series about relationships, sorry if your oh so eager to read the rest of the articles, that fact is, i havent had the motivtion to do them recently, lots of stuff going on in that noggin of mine. But this is the second part, a list of sorts that girls must know about guys, ive got about 2 more of these lists, and theyll be posted soon enough. So get your teeth stuck into these little gems. I must say i agree with the majority of them. What can i say men are from mars, women from somewhere outside our comprehension.
..1-We’re not as perverted as you think we all are.
..2-No matter what YOU say, your ex-boyfriend IS a LOSER.
..3- We like you to give us hugs and kisses sometimes too.
..4-Don’t argue with us when we call you beautiful.
..5-Don’t treat us like crap, what goes around comes around.
..6-We know you’re pretty, that’s one of the reason’s we’re going out with you.
..7- Don’t go into detail about your period. It scares us.
..8- If you have cramps and we ask you what’s wrong, just tell us it’s that time of the month and nothing more.
..9-If you really liked us for us, you would let us think that our mustache, beard, or sideburns looked cool.
..10-We never shave our legs. So get over it.
..11-NEVER ask us if you can put makeup on us. It’s just wrong…………
..12-Don’t make bets about us, because one of your friends will tell us, if you don’t.
..13-When we tell you that you’re not fat, believe us.
..14-We absolutely do not care about the Backstreet Boys, *NSYNC, 98 Degrees, or what any other guy looks like for that matter.
..15-We may not be able to pee accurately all of the time, but at least we can stand up and go pee.
..16-Just cause you think you’re always right, doesn’t mean that you don’t have to apologize when you do something “wrong.”
..17-You expect us to say and do sweet things for you, but it would be nice if you did the same every once in a while. We like to know that you love us.
..18-We can’t always be spontaneous, so try to help us make the plans sometimes.
..19-Don’t ask us to beat up another guy for you, cause you might get what you wish for.
..20-Never kick us in the nuts “just to see what we would say”. That’s just mean.
..21-Never pretend like you are going to break up with us and laugh when we believe you.
..22-Pamela Anderson’s boobs aren’t fake anymore, but we like yours better anyway.
..23-Size doesn’t matter, except two idiots who don’t want a relationship.
..24-PMS is not an excuse.
..25-If you want us to put the seat down when we’re done, you should put it up when you’re done.
..26-……….. Don’t tell us how cute your ex-boyfriend was. That doesn’t turn us on.
..27-And always remember: The way to a guys heart is through his stomach….. and maybe….oh nevermind.
..28-NEVER ask us to kiss other guys. You might be that comfy with your friends, but to us it’s just wrong.
..29-We always notice how funny it is after your rip out our heart, stick it down our throat and still want to be friends.
..30-And last but not least: We know you’re not always right, but we’ll pretend like you are anyway.

Omnia Vincit Amor part 3
I think i found this on points in case link
Points in case is very interesting website, although aimed more at the american college crowd. I thought id follow up my last list with this one. I must say im pretty clueless when it comes to understanding what a woman wants, well because not many men can decrypt what a woman says and what she really wants. Hope this list helps you men understand women a little better.
50 things girls want guys to know
By: Charlie
Dated: 11:05 on 11/17/2005

1. Saying “I love you” immediately before, during, or following sex doesn’t count.

2. Real men drive stick shift.

3. I will leave if you lie.

4. You are cute in raglan-sleeved T-shirts (two-toned baseball undershirts).

5. I’m convinced I’m pregnant and obsess about it for a minimum of 24 to 48 hours before my period, even when I have no rational reason to think so.

6.I love it when you hug me from behind and whisper in my ear.

7. “Fine” is never an appropriate response when I ask you how I look.

8. Most of the time when I fantasize, it’s about you.

9. I’m terrified of becoming my mother, even though I admire her.

10. I get turned on simply seeing that I have an e-mail from you.

11. I expect you to call me.

12. Only rock stars are allowed to wear leather pants.

13. I’m scared of losing my independence.

14. I’m more forgiving of you than I really should be.

15. Oral sex is your get-out-of-the-doghouse-free card. Manolo Blahnik shoes also do the trick.

16. You did something bad. I seem cool with it. I’m not. (See directly above.)

17. If I’m not having sex with you, I’m… a. …having a fat day. b. …not feeling “connected” to you. c. …blackmailing you to get something I want.

18. Shoes determine whether you’re fashionable or not.

19. I own a Debbie Gibson CD, and I’m not afraid to use it.

20. When I compare my flabby tummy to a kangaroo pouch, say nothing.

21. A man I love plans the occasional fancy-schmancy dress-up date and impromptu weekend getaways, and he buys my favorite candy in advance when we’re just going to the movies.

22. You look hot in hooded clothing items.

23. You should never tell me what to do.

24. If I slept over, you owe me breakfast.

25. My breasts love much licking and sucking.

26. If you ask me out directly, I will say yes.

27. I’m very impressed when you ask for my advice.

28. I’m unimpressed with a man who doesn’t take the lead.

29. When in doubt, go with the shirt that matches your eye color.

30. I want to be Madonna.

31. Women get urinary-tract infections easily, so watch (and wash) your fingers.

32. I’m in heaven when you hold my hand.

33. You’re sexy when you’re shaving, fixing things, wearing a white T-shirt and jeans, driving, eating a peach, holding a baby.

34. I need to hear how you feel about me. Often. Tell me now.

35. Surprises, especially gifts for moi = more loving.

36. I want to be the best thing that ever happened to you–and for you to recognize this.

37. If I’m not feeling loved, I will start looking….

38. Discussion of ex-gf’s and ex-bf’s should be avoided at all times.

39. I like it when you tell me what you’re thinking, even if you don’t know yourself.

40. Celebrating our anniversary, even if it’s only been a few months, earns major bonus points.

41. I love it when you’re sweaty.

42. It’s best to consult your gal pals for gift ideas.

43. A lady should always be greeted with kisses.

44. I like porn.

45. I love holding your bum in the palms of my hands.

46. Even nice girls like hushed dirty talk in public.

47. It’s cheating as soon as you’re doing something with her that you wouldn’t want me to see, hear, read…

48. For the record: I’d rather you break up with me than cheat.

49. I remember everything about our relationship.

50. You should know all this and more with-out my telling you